I missed a Friday Few last week.  I can’t remember why, but I’m sure there was a good reason!

I have a birthday coming up, which usually means I start thinking about what I’ve accomplished and wondering when, exactly, I’m going to become a grown up. The first one is pretty easy, the growing up… well… it hasn’t happened yet. Heh.Road as seen from my rearview mirror

The last few birthdays I’ve started to realize that life is not getting any longer and it’s too short to waste time on a lot of things – especially things that make me grumpy, miserable, stressed out (in a negative way) or, to be blunt, I just don’t enjoy or want to do.

Now, before anyone jumps up and down and says sometimes doing things you don’t like or don’t want to do is part of life… part of being a grown up, I know that.  I hate doing my bookkeeping.  But my accountant and the government tend to get persnickety if I don’t.  Of course there are things we have to do on a regular basis in order to be a productive, healthy member of society.

However there are a lot of things we do simply because we feel guilty or obligated to do them.   One of the best lessons I have learned over the last 3 years is how to say NO.  It’s incredibly freeing.  And recognizing that you are the person who has ultimate control over what you choose to do and not do is not only freeing, it can be scary.  It means you can’t blame others for what you choose to do or not do.  Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness.  Nobody else is.  Coming to those conclusions was a birthday realization.

I bring that one up because it’s one I’m revisiting this year.  I need a refresher course in reminding myself that I’m responsible for me.  And not only is life too short to spend on things that cause stress and clutter, but I really need to start spending time working on things that are near and dear to my heart, instead of putting them off for reasons that, when I’m at the end of my life and I look back, won’t matter in the slightest.

I honestly believe that if something is truly important to you, you will find a way to get it done.  If you don’t, it wasn’t that important, despite what you may tell your family or friends or yourself.  We are all very good at lip service, but so many of us fall short on walking the walk.   This year, I’m going to do my best to start walking the walk a little more consistently and focusing on what is meaningful to me.